Dating Diaries

You know that common phrase, "What’s the worst they can say? Just no, right?" Well, these days, rejection seems to go far beyond a simple "no."

Alright, let’s say it one more time, for those in the back—date people who genuinely like you!

I’m a traditional girl, and I always will be. There are just some things I believe should be done a certain way—like they’ve been done for ages. One of those things? Asking a woman out.

Let’s be real—if you feel the need to test your partner’s loyalty, you probably don’t trust them to begin with. And if that’s the case, why are you even in the relationship?

Ah, dating. It’s always been a bit of a rollercoaster, hasn’t it? But let me tell you, dating in your 30s? That’s not just a rollercoaster—it’s a whole amusement park of nonsense, complete with long lines, unexpected drops, and questionable safety standards. You’ve lived through enough at this point to know what you want, yet somehow, the dating pool is still full of people who think mixed signals are a valid form of communication. 

On 11/11, Singles Day, I noticed many people expressing how challenging it’s been to navigate this year solo. For some, the day became a reminder of not having a partner, which brought feelings of loneliness or a sense of lacking something. And while I completely understand those feelings, I think there’s a different way to look at it.

Okay, let’s talk real for a second. We’ve all been there—dating different people for longer than we care to admit and racking up relationship horror stories that could rival a Nollywood blockbuster. But here’s the thing: I’ve noticed a trend (and I bet you have too)—people enter the dating pool with heartbreak still dripping from their sneakers! It's like showing up to a wedding wearing yesterday’s club outfit. The mismatch is real!

We all want relationships—genuine, loving, and fulfilling ones. But so many of us project fears, doubts, and negativity onto relationships we haven’t even had yet. A conversation with a friend today really got me thinking about this.

Ah, ghosting—the modern dating phenomenon where your potential future partner transforms into a ghost faster than you can say, “What did I do?” Yep, I’ve been there. So, pull up a chair and grab some popcorn because this story’s got all the drama of a soap opera minus the catchy theme song.

Gather ‘round, folks! So, I’ve been scrolling through the internet and stumbling upon a lot of proposal videos, and I have noticed a pattern. It turns out, a lot of these lovebirds didn’t just bump into each other at a coffee shop. Nope! They had their friends, siblings, or even that overly enthusiastic aunt playing matchmaker.